Learning about those risks and taking the necessary steps to minimize them (protecting yourself and playing smartly) gives you the freedom to enjoy bottoming without fear. All sex - bottoming, topping, sucking, handjobs - involves risk. In cultural discourse, HIV is widely associated with my community - so much so that many beginners who want to try bottoming refrain from doing so because they think it’s an extremely dangerous, high-risk activity. I’m a man who has sex with men, including trans men, and I see transgender women and queer people of color as essential members of my LGBTQ+ family.